Week 30.1 - Learning to admire and be inspired instead of envious
"A good traveler has no fixed plans, and is not intent on arriving."--Lao Tzu
“Get out of your head and get into your body. Think less and feel more.” ~Osho
Prayer is when you talk to God; meditation is when you listen to God. - Diana Robinson
Develop a sense of your core values – know the difference from envy to inspiration
Think of someone that you truly admire. Not someone you love, depend on or take care of, but someone you wish you were more like. What are three qualities about that person that you admire? Are these qualities part of your core values? What can you do to nurture these qualities in your life?
At a recent beach yoga class, there was a male student to my left that was getting warmed up prior to class starting. He expertly flowed into a series of elaborate, intense and precise transitions into and out of handstands, even on the very soft and uneven surface of the beach sand he did not fall once. My first instinct was “Dang what a cocky showoff.” Then I began to look deeper and think about what I was really feeling. As I followed the trail, the path lead to the dark, destructive emotion of “Envy.” Nothing ever positive comes from this emotion and it seems to shine a bright spot light on our own insecurities. I thought what if I could replace my feelings of jealousy and inadequacies with “admiration” instead. Instead of showing my what a lack, what if I allowed this student to show me what was possible to achieve? It changed my perspective to this individual and my entire mode changed.
I you have someone in your life that you can never please, no matter what you do, you can never please or make happy… It is a sign to STOP trying… The unhappiness is not a projection of your actions, but instead a reflection of the lack of worth that person feels for themselves.
“Some people try to be tall by cutting off the heads of others.” - Paramhansa Yogananda
“One of the most beautiful qualities of true friendship is to understand and to be understood.”
“The best mirror is an old friend.” - George Herbert
“People are lonely because they build walls instead of bridges.” Rumi said, “Why do we spend so much effort opening the door between us, when the wall itself is an illusion.”
It is very common that due to our own lack of self-worth, many find ourselves attracted someone completely opposite of ourselves. We enter into a relationship and then find ourselves frustrated by our differences. We may spend the rest of our time together trying to change them to be more like ourselves only in the end, realizing that the only person we had the power to change was ourselves..
Focus on the people who inspire you, not the ones who annoy you. Attract the people into your your life that share your core values and do not distract you from them.
We don't need someone who only sees the good in us. We need someone who sees all of who we actually are and loves us just the same.
Don't look for someone who'll solve all your problems. Look for someone who won't let you face them alone.
"Sometimes our light goes out but is blown again into flame by an encounter with another human being. Each of us owes the deepest thanks to those who have rekindled this inner light." ~ Albert Schweitzer
“Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced.”
"Do you know what happens when you decide to stop worrying about what other people might think of you? You get to dance. You get to sing. You get to laugh loudly, paint, write, and create. You get to be yourself. Some people won't like you, but it won't bother you all that much."
“Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.” – Carl Jung
Your faith can move mountains and your doubt can create them.
“A truly rich man is one whose children run into his arms when his hands are empty.”
“The yoga pose you avoid the most you need the most.”
"Yoga is not about touching your toes, it is about what you learn about yourself while trying to touch your toes."
"Yoga is not about self-improvement, it is about self-acceptance." - Gurmukh Kaur Khalsa
Mastery of yoga is really measured by how it influences our day-to-day living, how it enhances our relationships, how it promotes clarity and peace of mind. T.K.V. Desikachar
“Yoga is the journey of the self, through the self, to the self.”– The Bhagavad Gita
Teachers open the door, but you must enter by yourself.
“In the end, only three things matter: how much you loved, how gently you lived, and how gracefully you let go of things not meant for you.”
“If you look to others for fulfillment, you will never be fulfilled. If your happiness depends on money, you will never be happy with yourself. Be content with what you have; rejoice in the way things are. When you realize there is nothing lacking, the world belongs to you.” – Lao Tzu
“Every experience, no matter how bad it seems, holds within it a blessing of some kind. The goal is to find it.” – Buddha
The greatest friend of truth is Time, her greatest enemy is Prejudice, and her constant companion is Humility. -Charles Caleb Colton
Peace starts with suffering, freedom starts with conﬁnement, courage starts with fear, strength starts with surrender, every mountain starts from beneath the earth and you too shall rise!